When I reflect back, I see how I showed up, and I see why things happened the way they did. I wasn’t taught this by any means, but as a girl, I believed it was my job to make mom and dad happy (aka less stressed so they’d have more time for me). As I got older I loved having a role, and I thought it’s what gave me validation, love and acceptance. Some of these roles were: 1. The problem solver- the one who comes up with new ideas and solutions to take care of others 2. The re

I didn’t know what I didn’t know. I just loved you in the way I thought I was supposed to. I loved you in the way I was praised for giving love as a child- being helpful, solving problems, relieving stress, supporting emotionally...and this translated to me being a parent and resenting you for being the child. I’m sorry. I now know this dynamic is incredibly sexy to those who have a neglected inner-child. The over-functioner loves having the role of the parent, the under-func