I’m growing he isn’t.
I’m scared we will grow apart.
Why do I have to do all the emotional work?
It’s not fair.
He doesn’t get it.
I’m so tired of having to ask for my needs.
He should just know by now.
He should do the work like me.
Then I’ll feel safe, to trust myself.
The feminine has a huge desire to deeply tap into her emotions her spirituality and the depths of her soul. It's a deep calling of hers. This is often why the feminine loves workshops, personal growth books, self-care practices, coaching, therapy etc...
AND then it happens.
The fear hits.
“What if all the growth I am doing will push me further away from my partner? I thought this would bring us closer when in fact I’m terrified it's showing me how different we really are. I don’t know if he can handle me…”
What this person is really saying… “I don’t know if I feel safe to fully surrender into the vastness that is my own feminine essence so I will continue to tell the story to myself he is unsafe and that’s why I can’t”
When in fact the surefire way for your masculine partner to tap more into his masculine is to surrender to your full feminine expression. Get messy, be emotional, satiate your desires, express your pleasure, share your delight, be playful, allow him to lead the way.
When you lead with your heart it invites him to lead with his mission.
Masculine work doesn’t look the same as feminine. So stop trying to make him do the work like you.
You think you want your man all up in his feelings when in actuality you want him to be all up in his mission and purpose. Let him grow in partnership WITH you as you grow. And trust his process, and trust yours!