If self-care feels like a chore, STOP.
Self-care should not feel like another “have-to”, get you talking in “shoulds” or make yo feel pressure or guilt for not doing it.
Now, I hear the self-care gurus (me included in this) saying “What the?! I thought self-care requires discipline, routine and consistency?!” To that, I want to say, “Yes, and...”
**If you don’t get energized, uplifted, inspired by your self-care it’s no longer self-care it’s actually self-betrayal 😬
**If control, structure and regimented routine is a trauma response, stop forcing self-care and make a conscious choice to go with the flow 🌊
**If you feel guilt, shame, or pressure for NOT doing self-care, just pause and reevaluate 🤔
Maybe the first time you heard the concept of self-care and implemented it you felt amazing. You created your list, you did your salt baths, morning routine and made space for yoga...and here is something to think about- how long ago did you make that self-care list? 5yrs ago, 6 months ago? 2 months ago?
If you are on a conscious healing journey, you are ever changing -your needs are included in this! Maybe yoga helped you a lot 1yr ago, and maybe now the thing you’re seeking is rest...so try giving yourself permission to sleep in.
Aligned self-care is expansive and comes from a space of freedom, adaptability and most importantly, inspiration. You will feel good doing it from this place.
The only time discipline comes in is when you feel unmotivated and are coping with distraction mechanisms to avoid doing the thing you know you want to do. (Read that again 😉) Part two requires discernment: listing to self and sensing into self, while getting curious about what the answer might be!
Throw out the rule book. Give yourself the freedom to cultivate a MOMENT BY MOMENT self-care plan. Know what you enjoy AND in moments of stress, healing, intention pause. Take 3-5 feel breaths while grounding your feet and ask your body “What do I need right now?” ⬅️THIS is self-care. This is self-love. This is self-worth. This is self-trust. This is how, we truly connect back in during our Journey Back To Self.